Imagine someone who is on a downward spiral in their lives. The spiral may be from addictions, abuse, self-degradation, or a host of other things that drag us down.
What would you say to that person to break their downward spiral?
How would you mentor someone who is wanting to break free from their past life?
Maybe they are already working with an agency or program that is attempting to help them, but they are looking for something different, like an alternative to AA or a personal coaching approach.
People will approach breaking out of downward spirals in different ways, but one thing is a common theme in every approach:
The power of positive thinking.
There is no way around it! If you (or someone you work with) want to get out of your negative funk, you have to change your thinking toward positive themes and ideas.
So how do you change your mindset?
Here are 5 tangible and practical things that anyone can do to begin changing your thinking and the way that you view your experiences, surroundings, and future!
STAY AWAY FROM DOUBTERS
You probably already know this, but you become like the people that you spend the most time with.
Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
Your friends might be great, but if they are always negative or pressuring you to go deeper into your negative spiral, then it is time to either choose new friends or spend less time with them.
If your co-workers are the negative people around you, then make sure you have a healthy balance of positive people in your life as well.
But what if you can do something even better?
What if you were the one who would begin changing your negative friends as well?
What if you stepped up to the plate and encouraged your friends, peers, and co-workers to be more positive?
What if you were the example of positive thinking and living that they would want to follow?
DON'T FOCUS ON THE IMPOSSIBLE
Every time you approach a task you will be tempted to see the negative side of it.
For example, if you are trying to lose weight, you can probably easily think of 5 reasons that it won’t work.
Or if your boss gives you an assignment, your first response might be the 3 things that will go wrong with the project (that of course aren’t your fault).
Are you ready for a challenge?
The next time you have a project or task, flip your thinking. Literally.
Try something called “reversi thinking.”
Here’s how it works: Write down the thing that you need to do on a piece of paper.
You’ll be tempted to think and write down all the ways that it will be difficult or impossible.
However, because you are reshaping your thinking to positive thinking, you need to write down every way that it is possible and the steps you will take to accomplish that task.
If you get stuck, have some people help you.
You’ll be amazed at how a project or goal that looked impossible at first will suddenly begin looking very doable.
And when you are done, you will feel accomplished. You will also quickly become known as the person who can get the impossible done, which puts you on the fast-track for promotions, raises, and opportunity.
VIEW EVERY CHALLENGE AS A CHANCE TO LEARN
Just like you should focus on the possible instead of impossible, you should also look at every situation as an opportunity to grow and learn.
Imagine the following scenario:
Your manager gives you a task of inputting data into an Excel spreadsheet and running some analytics. The task is time-consuming, mind-numbing, and will take all day. Pretty depressing, right?
But what if you viewed it as an opportunity to learn? What if you asked some people, or did a few quick searches online, on how you can make Excel do most of the analyzing for you? What if you took some time to learn new formulas, formatting, and editing that made you even better at Excel and completed the task faster than expected?
It doesn’t mean that you will love every minute of the job, but it could give you some great training for the next time, or for your coworker who is struggling with a similar project.
Again, it takes a different way of thinking, but view every task, whether challenging or mundane, as an opportunity to grow and learn.
CONSUME MATERIAL OF GREAT THINKERS
You probably feel like a “regular Joe” most of the time, and many of the people you regularly interact with are probably similar.
So how do you surround yourself with amazing people if everyone around you is either negative or just normal?
Reading the books, biographies, or watching videos of great thinkers, leaders, and coaches will begin to change the way you think and live.
You don’t have to spend any money on this either! Your local library system will provide you with biographies about positive people and books on positive self-development. Youtube has countless hours of speeches given by powerful speakers.
It really comes down to what you feed your mind: If you want to stand out, then don’t consume the average media. Instead of spending your free time watching TV shows or the news, fill your free time with great books and videos.
It really can be that simple!
START A THANKFUL JOURNAL
This is probably one of the easiest ways to begin changing your thinking, and it takes very little time.
Sadly, it is also probably the one thing that is done the least.
The idea is basic: Every evening, you write down 3-5 things from the day that you were thankful for or lessons that you learned.
You will find that it does several things. First, it makes you reflect on the day in a positive way instead of a negative one. Second, it forces you to actually think of the positive things in your life. And third, it gives you a resource to look over and see how blessed you really are!
Imagine if you wrote 5 things a day for a year. After a year you would have a journal with 1,825 things that you were thankful for!
Again, this idea is almost too simple, so many people don’t do it. But if you really want an easy way to begin thinking positive, this is a great way to begin your journey.
Changing your thinking and mindset to a positive view can have a radical difference on your life. It will change the way you view things, the way you approach life, and the way people view you!
If you are looking for further coaching in this area or in creating a fresh start for yourself, talk to Accept & Conquer today.
Whether you are breaking free from addiction, looking for an alternative to AA, or wanting a new approach on life; we would love to partner with you!